Sometimes our struggles aren’t so black and white. This book helps you uncover that and build on your emotional intelligence and maybe even realign your compass during the journey that our 20s are. It might even bring some topics to the surface to bring to therapy. Although this book is geared towards men, I think it is a great read for everyone. This book might also shed some light to women on the struggles and perspectives of the young men around us.
Favorite Quotes:
“You will be doing only what feels good and easy in the moment, and that is my definition of a boy. Not a man.”
“I lived most of my life with a “to-me” mindset. Something happened to me. She dumped me. He took something from me. Life did something to me. Or nothing happened to me. When something happens to you, you’re in victim mode — the most powerless state.”
“Truly confident people don’t need to prove anything. They focus on giving their value instead of announcing it.”
“What if you didn’t feel the need to prove anything? What would that look like in your everyday life? How would that change your dialogue, behavior, attitude and energy?”
“Focus less on outcomes. Instead, focus on the process. When we put all our chips on what we need to achieve, our ego is on the line. Because we tie our worth (ego) to our ability. We believe that if we don’t accomplish — close the deal, land the raise, get the girl, win the race — we are diminished, “less than.”
“Life is not about waiting. It’s about seeking, discovering, learning, growing, and in this process producing joy. Because happy doesn’t fall into our laps. We must produce it.”
“Seek joy, always, in everything you do. It doesn’t matter if you’re doing the dishes, going on a date, or building an empire; this mindset will allow you to be open and aware, to unlock yourself so that you can unleash your gifts. The world needs you. You were meant to change it.”
“Any opportunity you get to travel, just fucking take it. Life doesn’t give us an invitation to go anywhere. We have to make it happen.”
“A man’s diet is a direct reflection of his self-control, discipline, and how much he loves himself.”
“Admitting when we are wrong isn’t a sign of weakness. It is a sign of strength. It takes courage to acknowledge our mistakes, defects, and shortcomings. Make “I was wrong” (or, if it’s easier, “You were right”) your new superpower.”
“Every man must ask himself two questions: First, Where am I going? And second, Who’s coming with me? If he reverses the order, he will be going alone.”
“Worth is not something you believe. It’s something you build.”
“Treat people in service — valets, servers, bartenders, hosts — extra kindly. Don’t treat them like they are beneath you. They are making your life easier. The way you treat people in service is a direct reflection of your true character.”
“Do not exchange your truth for membership.”
